This is my final blog post. The semester is coming to a close this week, and with it comes a conclusion to my requirement to blog once a week. Since I don't anticipate having another class that requires blogging; this is it.
Something I love about living in Provo is the dating environment. Provo brings together a unique mixture of people that vary from two ends of a spectrum. You have a large group of people that are super eager to get married. Every decision they make is dependant upon their ability to get married sooner. In contrast, there is a large group that has no intentions to get married. They're only intention is to hook up with as many people as possible. Combining these two groups of people allows for very unique and entertaining dating experiences.
This blog is inspired by a blog post written by my cousin. In her blog, she details some of her worst dating experiences that she has endured. Her blog wonderfully details some of the horrendously stupid acts that men in this town pull. My purpose is to enlighten others in the unusual acts women in this town commit. These are all true stories from my own personal experience. Although the post will display some of the poor decisions of women, it will also include some of the idiotic acts from men (which in this case is myself) like my cousin explained. If you love my blog and want to learn where I got my inspiration from, you can read my cousins blog here.http://poorinprovo.blogspot.com
I'm posting this on Facebook, but as I went through this I realized I'm still friends with all these girls on Facebook. For this cause no names will be shared.
this isn't a complaint blog about women. This is a compilation of stories that I find amusing and love sharing. I still think these girls are great people despite the occurrences that transpired.
5) Thought a girl was cute. Went to her work at a hair salon to ask her out. Got her number and even scheduled a hair appointment (a really stupid decision because this was a women's salon where haircuts cost $30). She agreed to go on the date. When we were scheduling it, she said we could've gone that night or two nights later. I opted for two nights later because I wanted to watch a baseball game that night. Two nights later she cancelled and rescheduled. When the day of the reschedule came, she cancelled again and rescheduled. When that date came she cancelled and rescheduled again. When that date came, I was pulling into her complex at the arranged time of 9 to pick her up. She texted me saying she was sick and couldn't go out that night. She was sick all day and waited until the exact time of the date to cancel. We didn't reschedule after this. Then months later I saw her at a pool. When she came over to say hi, my friend awkwardly grilled her to decide when she would actually go out with me. When she hesitated, he continued to pressure her. I tried to get him to stop but he was insistent. It was embarrassing and it ended with her getting married and me still being single.
4) Went on one date with a girl. Went well. We had plans to go out again. Before we went out again she called me on a sunday afternoon and asked if I wanted to go on a walk. I thought this was a good sign, a nice romantic feeling comes in a walk. You enjoy nature, you learn more about each other. unfortunately I ended up walking into a trap. The walk was to give her a chance to tell me she had been praying and she had received an answer and that Heavenly Father had told her not to date me anymore. After one date. After this she proceeded to spend large amounts of time with a friend of mine who was partially inactive. I guess God passed him off. Only in Provo is "God told me no" an acceptable denial
3) I was hanging out with a girl that I had a crush on for quite some time. We were with friends and ended up winding down the night with a movie. After the movie, the living room had cleared and it was just her and me left on the couch. We talked and I had a chance to ask her out for later that week. I thought she had a boyfriend so I was pretty happy at the prospect of taking her out. She assured me she and her boyfriend had broken up. This night we ended up kissing on the couch. She asked me to be secrete about kissing because her "ex's" sister still lived in the same complex as us and she didn't want word to get back to him and hurt him. Me, being an idiot, decided to brag to my roommates that I had finally gotten with this girl. They didn't believe me so the next time they saw her they immediately asked. She got very upset with me for not being able to keep a secret. After this, I learned her boyfriend and her didn't break up, he just moved out of town for the summer. I got labeled as a home wrecker by her friends and acquaintances. She married this boyfriend and then when I saw her and asked her "how's married life" she responded, "it's good you should try it."
2) A certain girl and me had been talking for about a week. With a group of friends we decided to watch a movie. The movie was "Lincoln" which is perfect because it's a super boring movie that allows us to focus our attentions else where, in particular, making out on the couch in secret. After the movie, she and I were still cuddled up on the couch. My roommate jumped on top of us. Uncomfortable, I told her I was going to go to bed. I expected her to leave the apartment with me going to sleep but she opted to stay. While I was sleeping she made out with my roommate on the couch. The next day she and I broke up.
1) This girl friend zoned me after two dates. It hurt but I was glad she was upfront about it and didn't lead me on. Later in the year we started to have a flirtatious connection once more. After I allowed her to bleach my hair blonde, she and I watched a movie late one night at her house. This tends to lead to making out. Before we made out, she made me promise that it wouldn't be just a hook up. I agreed even though I didn't think much of it. After making out, I proceeded to tell a couple guys I knew that were aware that she had friend zoned me. A pretty douchey move on my part. It's never cool to kiss and tell but sometimes it's necessary. One of the guys told her what I had said in order to gain favor with her. She called me later that week to "talk about things". I was under the impression she was going to take the time to yell at me for my less than gentlemen like actions. My friend, amused at the situation, volunteered to be in my trunk so he could hear her yell at me and better articulate to our group of friends what had happened. With my friend in my trunk, I went to her house and picked her up. When we were parked, I was fully anticipating her to unleash her wrath on me. Instead, she explained how she felt about her mission call, and said she didn't feel comfortable leaving on her mission with open ends between us. She said she would be 100% comfortable to delay her mission to continue to see what would become of us. (keep in mind we hadn't been on a date, we kissed one night on her couch). I was speechless. I was expecting to get yelled at but instead was met with a situation in which a girl was offering to skip her mission to continue dating. On top of this my friend is in the trunk listening to every word. Very bizarre situation. I apologized as I told her I wasn't interested in pursuing things and wished her luck on her mission.
This is it. I imagine my appearance is probably changing in the eyes of my vast audience of readers but that's ok. These stories are funny to me. If you made it to the end of the article, I hope you agree and shared a laugh or two.
Big shout out to all the readers that have been with me since the beginning. Y'all the real MVP's.
Sunday, December 13, 2015
Sunday, December 6, 2015
People that forget Names
Recently I watched as one of my close friends (boy) chatted with another one of my friends (girl). Given that our friend circles are so intertwined, I assumed the too were well acquainted with one another. I was shocked when at the end of the conversation Girl said to Boy, "well it was nice to meet you, what was your name again?"
I was surprised that they hadn't met before. I feel like I'm surrounded by these two all the time. Boy later explained to me that they had met like 10+ times before, and have had the same conversation every time and yet she still can't remember.
This is one of my favorite things about Provo, or life in general, is people's inability to remember other people they have met. Unfortunately I have this symptom. If you ask a close friend of mine, he'd easily be able to rattle off over ten times when I had to turn to him and ask, "do I know this person?" "have we met them before. It makes me hate myself because I feel like a rude, inconsiderate dick whenever I don't remember someone's name. I feel like it's perceived as, "well, he thinks to highly of himself that he can't remember other people. I don't like him anymore" That is sad.
Certain things are in play when it comes to introductions,
1) Are you attracted to the person you're meeting? If yes, odds are you're going to remember their name. When you're attracted to someone, you're not only going to remember their name, but you'll probably also stock their social media, learn all about them, and maybe even add them at the slight chance of generating conversation again. And then when you talk to them again you have to restrain from asking them about their visit to Texas which is something you saw in one of their pictures.
Ex:
Once I met a girl that I thought was gorgeous. We talked for about a half hour the first time we met. I thought it went well. Obviously she didn't because she didn't remember any part of it the next time we met. This happened like 6 times. I should've been upset but each time I met her it gave me another chance to make a first impression and get her to like me. It eventually worked in the sense that we went on a date
2) Sometimes you have to forget someone's name because you're playing a game.
In the above example, when it became evident that the girl wasn't aware that we had already met, I had to play it off like we were complete strangers too so I didn't seem like such a weirdo. I had to ask questions I already knew the answer to, like "where are you from?" "what are you studying?"
It's stupid but effective. If I were to say something like, "c'mon, we've met already, don't you remember?" she'll say no and we'll have to have the conversation over again anyway. Plus in the second scenario, she's already put off by that statement. Like she teaches herself, "oh if I did meet this guy and not remember him, then I'm probably not interested. I'll stay uninterested."
another game is intentional forgetting:
once my friend was talking to me about a girl that I had just met. Apparently she had asked about me BY NAME. Then, when I met her next, she played the, "Remind me of your name…" I was thinking, "honey please, I know darned well that you remember my name." In this instance it worked against her because of what my friend told me. Usually this strategy works in her favor, almost telling the guy to work harder and make a better impression. I didn't in this case because I knew she already knew my name.
3) Someone has an extremely ethnic/difficult name:
Sometimes we hear names that we know we're going to instantly forget it. Like my friend Ouzhan Kalantari. Because people don't like asking others to repeat themselves, they won't ask for clarification on difficult names. Instead, they'll hope they just don't have to repeat this persons name and probably use words like, "dude," "man", "bro", "you"
4) Names get forgotten because they're spelled weird or pronounced weird.
This happens in my life a lot because I don't want to pronounce someone's name wrong. In Utah, since their are 200 different ways to pronounce each common name. I personally will hear the name, get worried I'm not going to pronounce it incorrectly so avoid using it altogether, and then since I'm not using it I'll forget it. So sorry to all the keslie's kelsie's kellysies klesies and kelessies of the world
5) sometimes people are just stupid. stupid people don't remember anything names included.
Has everyone seen the movie the testaments? Remember the scene when Jacob is finally talking to his crush Laneah? At the end of their conversation, as she's about to leave, she turns and says, "you did not ask my name…" Jacob responds, "I know your name." This is so pimp! Why can't we just be like Jacob and screw the games and garbage?
Names are tough. I promise I'll try harder and I apologize to everyone who's had to reintroduce themselves to me multiple times.
I was surprised that they hadn't met before. I feel like I'm surrounded by these two all the time. Boy later explained to me that they had met like 10+ times before, and have had the same conversation every time and yet she still can't remember.
This is one of my favorite things about Provo, or life in general, is people's inability to remember other people they have met. Unfortunately I have this symptom. If you ask a close friend of mine, he'd easily be able to rattle off over ten times when I had to turn to him and ask, "do I know this person?" "have we met them before. It makes me hate myself because I feel like a rude, inconsiderate dick whenever I don't remember someone's name. I feel like it's perceived as, "well, he thinks to highly of himself that he can't remember other people. I don't like him anymore" That is sad.
Certain things are in play when it comes to introductions,
1) Are you attracted to the person you're meeting? If yes, odds are you're going to remember their name. When you're attracted to someone, you're not only going to remember their name, but you'll probably also stock their social media, learn all about them, and maybe even add them at the slight chance of generating conversation again. And then when you talk to them again you have to restrain from asking them about their visit to Texas which is something you saw in one of their pictures.
Ex:
Once I met a girl that I thought was gorgeous. We talked for about a half hour the first time we met. I thought it went well. Obviously she didn't because she didn't remember any part of it the next time we met. This happened like 6 times. I should've been upset but each time I met her it gave me another chance to make a first impression and get her to like me. It eventually worked in the sense that we went on a date
2) Sometimes you have to forget someone's name because you're playing a game.
In the above example, when it became evident that the girl wasn't aware that we had already met, I had to play it off like we were complete strangers too so I didn't seem like such a weirdo. I had to ask questions I already knew the answer to, like "where are you from?" "what are you studying?"
It's stupid but effective. If I were to say something like, "c'mon, we've met already, don't you remember?" she'll say no and we'll have to have the conversation over again anyway. Plus in the second scenario, she's already put off by that statement. Like she teaches herself, "oh if I did meet this guy and not remember him, then I'm probably not interested. I'll stay uninterested."
another game is intentional forgetting:
once my friend was talking to me about a girl that I had just met. Apparently she had asked about me BY NAME. Then, when I met her next, she played the, "Remind me of your name…" I was thinking, "honey please, I know darned well that you remember my name." In this instance it worked against her because of what my friend told me. Usually this strategy works in her favor, almost telling the guy to work harder and make a better impression. I didn't in this case because I knew she already knew my name.
3) Someone has an extremely ethnic/difficult name:
Sometimes we hear names that we know we're going to instantly forget it. Like my friend Ouzhan Kalantari. Because people don't like asking others to repeat themselves, they won't ask for clarification on difficult names. Instead, they'll hope they just don't have to repeat this persons name and probably use words like, "dude," "man", "bro", "you"
4) Names get forgotten because they're spelled weird or pronounced weird.
This happens in my life a lot because I don't want to pronounce someone's name wrong. In Utah, since their are 200 different ways to pronounce each common name. I personally will hear the name, get worried I'm not going to pronounce it incorrectly so avoid using it altogether, and then since I'm not using it I'll forget it. So sorry to all the keslie's kelsie's kellysies klesies and kelessies of the world
5) sometimes people are just stupid. stupid people don't remember anything names included.
Has everyone seen the movie the testaments? Remember the scene when Jacob is finally talking to his crush Laneah? At the end of their conversation, as she's about to leave, she turns and says, "you did not ask my name…" Jacob responds, "I know your name." This is so pimp! Why can't we just be like Jacob and screw the games and garbage?
Names are tough. I promise I'll try harder and I apologize to everyone who's had to reintroduce themselves to me multiple times.
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